“We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.”
Martin Luther King
2020 isn’t over but it has already been an unexpected year for all of us. I want to share with you my own recent wake-up call and the lessons I have learned.
Life gives each us all our own set of unique lessons and experiences. Life as a tapestry woven with all different types of experiences. Whilst I believe that some events that happen in our lives are ours to choose, there are some events that are unavoidable. But even when life gives us huge challenges we still get to choose how we face them. Indeed, perhaps that is all we are left with.
When we face life’s inevitable tough moments, it’s important to remember that we are never alone and that what is being done TO you is really being done FOR you.
I have been living with chronic illness for more than 20 years. It is an underlying condition that thankfully has no symptoms. This enables me to get and stay very busy and I did – I neglected to visit the doctor for four years.
I finally went to the doctor again and had some tests done only to discover that my health had deteriorated significantly. It was a very confronting time. Although I felt well, I was forced to face many truths in a short period of time. I wanted to share with you what I learned.
1. When you are off your path the Universe WILL correct you.
Whilst we are sovereign beings, we are also continuously guided and supported by the Universe. The Universe will always step in when necessary to get you on your path for your highest good. And when the Universe steps in you will have no choice but to listen and let go.
2. Denial and Avoidance are not Viable Strategies
One of the key things I learned was that I was deep in denial. I was in my ego and I really thought that my health was and always would be fine! After all, I had dedicated my life to meditation, yoga, deep emotional release work, vegan and vegetarian eating, and energy healing.
I truly believed all of this would protect me from physically deteriorating. I was wrong to make assumptions and I should have done all of those things AND still seen the doctor regularly. But I was scared of hearing bad news and scared of feeling powerless. This denial and avoidance nearly caused more serious ramifications. Thankfully, it did not.
3. The Fear is Worse Than What You Fear
I also learned that the fear we spend so much energy running from is usually not as bad as we think it will be. I learned that it is better to face your greatest fears than to keep running. It is not easy, but it is better to face it than run.
4. When to Surrender
All my life I was hoping to beat this illness and had put so much effort and money into this aim. It was a huge blow to learn that I had not achieved my desired outcome. I felt like a failure. I quickly had to manage the shock and learn to accept the situation. I was disappointed, I wondered if I should have done more and I had to learn to let myself off the hook.
I knew in my heart that I had done everything I could for 20 years to try and change my medical outcome. It just hadn’t worked. I had to learn to surrender to a higher power had to learn some things on my path are on my path. I had to look for the hand of God - for the presence of something bigger than me – for me, it helped to believe that something greater than me was holding me through all of this.
5. Like the Ad Says – “You’re Worth It”
I also knew what I had never truly embraced - that I was worth prioritising.
For years I had put my children, my husband, and my work above my own health. I had to stop being stubborn and unworthy and understand that my health mattered - not just to me, but to all those people that loved and depended on me and wanted me around for a long time.
6. You Should Go and Love Yourself
I also had to see that I did not have to have perfect health to be worthy. It was time to stop holding out on myself because my body was flawed. Time to stop waiting for perfection before loving myself.
I suddenly saw myself and the health I do have in a very different light and did not take it for granted. I had always prioritised health, but it was in order to reach a goal of being “normal” and “perfect”, not because I valued myself.
And, through the hospital visits and tests, I saw people much worse off than me. I became deeply, deeply grateful for the health that I did have, and committed to preserving it.
7. Take All Necessary Action, Release All Concern
Lastly, I learned the power of taking all necessary action and releasing all concern.
Since I could no longer deny where my body was at, from that moment on I took every test, went to every doctor’s appointment, and committed to taking full responsibility for my health. I faced the truth. I surrendered to what I could not control and found the strength to carry on regardless of what the future holds.
As you can see, so many beautiful spiritual lessons came to me (and are still coming) through this massive wakeup call from the Universe.
If any of this resonates with you I really want to encourage you to please, please prioritise yourself and your health. Get support, and to what it takes to value and prioritise yourself.
Life happens to each of us and I wish you the courage to face the truth. I know it can be hard but out of the darkness will come the light and there is so much help out there for you if you open yourself up to it. Remember, tough times never last but tough people do!
If you want to stay in touch with me you can find me at www.justinepeacock.com.au and also join my Facebook group the Conscious Women’s Collective where you will find tools, resources, and information about how to work with me.